Your story resonated with me as someone who felt they were trapped in an echo chamber of repetitive pregnancy announcements.
I had a codependent relationship with my uterus— I didn’t drink, I exercised, I read books, and would have danced naked in the rain if it meant my uterus would be prime for bringing a small soul into the world. In this process of cultivating a happy and healthy uterus, I discovered I had fibroids. I was convinced that this was the only thing standing between me and a baby, until I suffered devastating miscarriages. This is the part of the conception saga often overlooked because it’s painful to tell people that you can come within inches of what you want and still come out empty handed.
I commend you for your vulnerability and strength to share your experience. More people need to hear that they are not alone, and that sometimes, the light we so desperately need comes from the stories of other women that have lived these experiences.
I'm so glad you're talking about this at a time that finally feels right for you. You have no obligations to anyone, but I know your experience will touch others who are going through the same. As I was reading this, I was so frustrated for you. I kept wishing you'd find that specialist who would truly hear you and give you the space you need. Is it the physicians themselves, or the system that only gives them 15 minutes?
Oh, I wish I could hug you! I never was able to have children and endured the questions (and with a Mexican Catholic family so I get it). I ended up having a full hysterectomy at 30.
You have nothing to be ashamed of and if you choose to share your condition with someone and they squirm, well let them - it is not on you to make them feel comfortable.
And not that I can say for certain ( obviously) but you still have time. I have known several women who had children from ages 39 - 41. I so hope you can find a caring doctor to help you going forward.
I have suffered with vaginismus for years. It wasn’t till years of gyno’s urologists, proctologists and physical therapists that I got a diagnosis and a treatment that worked for me. My pelvic floor had gone into spasm from all the investigative procedures I went through and I suffered with chronic pain all through my basket weave of pelvic floor music led. I couldn’t have sex for years. I finally found a doctor at a clinic called beyond basic physical therapy for pelvic fooor physical therapy in nyc. Amy stein is the doc . Wrote the book on pelvic floor dysfunction and the large umbrella of issues that fall under it. She and her team did manual, internal massage work and relaxation work on both vaginal and anal muscles and also did electric feedback to eventually heal my pain cycles…
Mostly, I wanna say Thanks for sharing this . You’re helping so many by talking publicly Tasnim. Love u so much!
Tasnim, your post resonated with me 🤍 as a gynecologist, I am sorry that you have been met this way and that you have been left without answers. Sending you a hug from DC. If you’re ever in the area, I would be happy to help.
Your story resonated with me as someone who felt they were trapped in an echo chamber of repetitive pregnancy announcements.
I had a codependent relationship with my uterus— I didn’t drink, I exercised, I read books, and would have danced naked in the rain if it meant my uterus would be prime for bringing a small soul into the world. In this process of cultivating a happy and healthy uterus, I discovered I had fibroids. I was convinced that this was the only thing standing between me and a baby, until I suffered devastating miscarriages. This is the part of the conception saga often overlooked because it’s painful to tell people that you can come within inches of what you want and still come out empty handed.
I commend you for your vulnerability and strength to share your experience. More people need to hear that they are not alone, and that sometimes, the light we so desperately need comes from the stories of other women that have lived these experiences.
I'm so glad you're talking about this at a time that finally feels right for you. You have no obligations to anyone, but I know your experience will touch others who are going through the same. As I was reading this, I was so frustrated for you. I kept wishing you'd find that specialist who would truly hear you and give you the space you need. Is it the physicians themselves, or the system that only gives them 15 minutes?
Such a beautifully written essay, I am always in awe of you bon. Thank you for your vulnerability, sending prayers for ease for you
Thank you for sharing this! It’s very important to start talking openly about stuff like this!🩷
Thank you so much for sharing this ❤️
Oh, I wish I could hug you! I never was able to have children and endured the questions (and with a Mexican Catholic family so I get it). I ended up having a full hysterectomy at 30.
You have nothing to be ashamed of and if you choose to share your condition with someone and they squirm, well let them - it is not on you to make them feel comfortable.
And not that I can say for certain ( obviously) but you still have time. I have known several women who had children from ages 39 - 41. I so hope you can find a caring doctor to help you going forward.
I have suffered with vaginismus for years. It wasn’t till years of gyno’s urologists, proctologists and physical therapists that I got a diagnosis and a treatment that worked for me. My pelvic floor had gone into spasm from all the investigative procedures I went through and I suffered with chronic pain all through my basket weave of pelvic floor music led. I couldn’t have sex for years. I finally found a doctor at a clinic called beyond basic physical therapy for pelvic fooor physical therapy in nyc. Amy stein is the doc . Wrote the book on pelvic floor dysfunction and the large umbrella of issues that fall under it. She and her team did manual, internal massage work and relaxation work on both vaginal and anal muscles and also did electric feedback to eventually heal my pain cycles…
Mostly, I wanna say Thanks for sharing this . You’re helping so many by talking publicly Tasnim. Love u so much!
Tasnim, your post resonated with me 🤍 as a gynecologist, I am sorry that you have been met this way and that you have been left without answers. Sending you a hug from DC. If you’re ever in the area, I would be happy to help.